The Dangers of Partnering While Mating

In the Sept/Oct, 2012 issue of Psychology Today, a short article, “The Beauty of Benign Neglect,” resonates with me today as it did 6 years ago. “Parents lack (a) trust in children’s desire to be competent and that nature will influence the course of development.”...

Social Connection as a Preventive Measure

Research has shown that social connection is the best protective factor against perinatal depression and anxiety, marital strife, and childhood developmental issues, so why hasn’t the public health sector caught on? Since research clearly shows that social connection...

OUR BEAUTIFUL, COMPLICATED BRAINS

When I work with my parent clients, I find it useful to explain the idea that our anatomical and physiological brains are literally built on and changed by lived experience. I go over the tools available that one can adopt to achieve regulation in the face of...

Parenting Mindfully & Attachment Parenting

Parenting Mindfully & Attachment Parenting by Deborah Groening   We can help our children feel validated and strong by not solving their problems for them but rather by bearing their struggles with them. Attachment theory and research and Dr. Sear’s “Attachment...

Why Therapy?

People ask me all the time, what happens in therapy? There is often a reluctance to go to a stranger and tell them your life history and pay for the privilege. Sometimes it is hard to accept that we cannot solve our problems on our own or that someone will be telling...