The Dangers of Partnering While Mating

In the Sept/Oct, 2012 issue of Psychology Today, a short article, “The Beauty of Benign Neglect,” resonates with me today as it did 6 years ago. “Parents lack (a) trust in children’s desire to be competent and that nature will influence the course of development.”...

Teaching Honesty Teaches Resilience To the Ups and Downs of Life

Teaching Honesty Teaches Resilience To the Ups and Downs of Life Teaching children to be honest about their thoughts and emotions promotes safety in the sharing of feelings. WBC’s Services Coordinator, family therapist, and Mindful Parenting Lead Facilitator,...

OUR BEAUTIFUL, COMPLICATED BRAINS

When I work with my parent clients, I find it useful to explain the idea that our anatomical and physiological brains are literally built on and changed by lived experience. I go over the tools available that one can adopt to achieve regulation in the face of...

Modeling Behavior: Minding Manners

  Modeling, also known as observational learning, is a social learning theory. It describes the process of how desired behavior is taught by example. Modeling sometimes occurs intentionally, and other times happens incidentally. As children develop, they are...

Parenting Mindfully & Attachment Parenting

Parenting Mindfully & Attachment Parenting by Deborah Groening   We can help our children feel validated and strong by not solving their problems for them but rather by bearing their struggles with them. Attachment theory and research and Dr. Sear’s “Attachment...

“B” is for Behavioral Problems

Parents can help their children when they are experiencing “big feelings” by trying to understand the thoughts and feelings that might be underneath the problem behavior. In the midst of a tantrum parents might simply try letting their child know that they are “with”...