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Breastfeeding, Sleeping, and Family Wellness

As pediatrician and psychoanalyst D.W. Winnicott said, there is “no such thing as a baby; there is only a baby and a mother.” Conversely, I suppose, there is no such thing as a mother, there is only a mother and a baby. Breastfeeding, Sleeping, and Family Wellness All...

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Coming to Your Senses – Sensory Integration and Your Child

Below are some strategies for assessing and managing your child’s upsets – whether he has some sensory integration (SI) challenges or an actual Sensory Processing Disorder (SPD). What is sensory integration? ­ SI is the ability to integrate input from our environment...

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The Dangers of Partnering While Mating

In the Sept/Oct, 2012 issue of Psychology Today, a short article, “The Beauty of Benign Neglect,” resonates with me today as it did 6 years ago. “Parents lack (a) trust in children’s desire to be competent and that nature will influence the course of development.”...

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When Things Fall Apart With Your Toddler

You’re having a great time with your little one when suddenly things take a turn for the worse.  How do you turn things back around? Difficult times with your toddler can actually be rich opportunities to connect if you approach the situation mindfully.  I know in the...

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Thank you Bonnie Nelson, LMFT

I remember when I first met Bonnie in 2003 when we were both exhausted, hard-working interns at The Maple Counseling Center.  Bonnie started working at WBC in 2009 and in addition to seeing clients she took on designing our technical and administrative procedures. I...

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What is Discipline?

What is discipline? Many of us have strong feelings about the meaning of this word that stem largely from what we know and remember from our own childhoods. Interestingly, the origin of the word in Latin means ‘pupil’ or ‘disciple’ and has its roots in the idea of...

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Social Connection as a Preventive Measure

Research has shown that social connection is the best protective factor against perinatal depression and anxiety, marital strife, and childhood developmental issues, so why hasn’t the public health sector caught on? Since research clearly shows that social connection...

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A Child’s Resource for Dealing with Rejection

The physical pain of peer rejection is real and it hurts. Badly. Although we can't avoid pain in life, neither for ourselves nor our children, we can give our children tools to grow resilience. In our Becoming Social Group at Well Baby Center, we explore strategies...

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Child-Centered Play

Children learn about the world and themselves through play. Playtime can also be a wonderful opportunity for you to bond with your child -- to let her know you “get” who she is and what she might be thinking and feeling as demonstrated through her play themes.  For...

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OUR BEAUTIFUL, COMPLICATED BRAINS

When I work with my parent clients, I find it useful to explain the idea that our anatomical and physiological brains are literally built on and changed by lived experience. I go over the tools available that one can adopt to achieve regulation in the face of...

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Modeling Behavior: Minding Manners

  Modeling, also known as observational learning, is a social learning theory. It describes the process of how desired behavior is taught by example. Modeling sometimes occurs intentionally, and other times happens incidentally. As children develop, they are...

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Parenting Mindfully & Attachment Parenting

Parenting Mindfully & Attachment Parenting by Deborah Groening   We can help our children feel validated and strong by not solving their problems for them but rather by bearing their struggles with them. Attachment theory and research and Dr. Sear’s “Attachment...

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What Does It Mean to Parent Mindfully?

What Does It Mean to Parent Mindfully? By Deborah Groening, MFT, Founder, Well Baby Center The subject of attachment relationships, which is a developmental theory, and Dr. Sear’s model of parenting he named “attachment parenting,” are two completely different...

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“F” is for Forgiveness

  When someone wrongs us, it is natural to allow negative emotions to flood our minds. We yearn for our offender to admit guilt and to provide relief with closure. But whether you receive the apology that you desire or not, it is crucial to first and foremost,...

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Infant Cues

Every infant uses cues: verbal and nonverbal means of communicating with his or her caregiver. Cues are the means that infants use to engage with and disengage from contact with the people around them, particularly their primary caregivers. The ways in which parents...

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Rupture, Repair, Repeat

Recently, I had an experience with my daughter that really reminded me of the power of the mindful parenting model in repairing relationships after a rupture has occurred. It is not easy to stay present or grounded when your child is having a meltdown, but on those...

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“E” is for Early Intervention

Early intervention refers to the range of services designed to enhance the development of infants and toddlers with disabilities or at risk of developmental delay. These services should be offered, to the maximum extent possible, in a natural environment, such as the...

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“D” is for Discipline

All children need consistent guidelines and reasonable expectations to help them learn, as well as to feel safe and understood. Discipline is most effective when approached as an opportunity to teach a child appropriate behavior, rather than as a punishment. A parent...

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Daddy and Me

Beginning in April, Well Baby Center is offering a unique opportunity for dads to bond with their babies while connecting with other fathers in our very first Daddy and Me class. One of the biggest challenges of parenting is feeling that you and your partner are not...

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“C” is for Child-Centered Activity or “Special Time”

Children learn about the world and themselves through play. Playtime can also be a wonderful opportunity for you to bond with your child -- to let her know you “get” who she is and what she might be thinking and feeling as demonstrated through her play themes.  For...

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“B” is for Behavioral Problems

Parents can help their children when they are experiencing “big feelings” by trying to understand the thoughts and feelings that might be underneath the problem behavior. In the midst of a tantrum parents might simply try letting their child know that they are “with”...

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Monster Mom or Regular Mom?

You may have all seen the headlines about Charlize Theron trying to contain her son Jackson’s tantrum this week in a parking lot littered with paparazzi. Since the pictures emerged of her “dragging” her son to the car, she has been disparagingly labeled “Monster Mom”...

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Is There a Neglected Dad in Your House?

With so much emphasis placed on mothers’ experience during pregnancy and the postpartum period, dads often feel overlooked. They can often feel displaced when the baby arrives, not knowing where they fit in to the new mother/baby couple or what their role should be....

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Coping With Holiday Blues

The holidays often bring up memories from one's childhood - some good, some not so good. This year, when you go “home for the holidays”, be prepared that your parents may likely draw you back into old family roles. Remember that you do have a choice in how you...

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Do You Have Ghosts In Your Nursery?

As mothers, we tend to suffer from huge amounts of guilt when it comes to parenting our children – harshly judging and comparing ourselves against other mothers who seem to have it all together. Part of the problem is that forms of mother-blaming have been around for...

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What Do We Do When Our Kids Exclude Each Other in Play

Following on the theme of rejection from last week’s topic I don’t love you anymore, this week’s discussion is about social exclusion and the painful ways preschoolers reject each other during play. If you have ever seen a 4 year old cut a friend out of a game you...

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“I Don’t Love You Anymore”

A phrase that has been popping up in my house recently from my 3.5 year old is “I don’t love you anymore Mommy!” commonly paired with “you are not my friend anymore”. I must admit I was a little taken aback when I heard this the first time and noticed an array of...

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Correcting Behavior vs. Talking About Feelings

Several years ago I first watched Jo Frost’s Super Nanny back in England and was intrigued by her no-nonsense approach to parenting that seemed to get great results in just a few days. Super Nanny would enter the homes of overwhelmed parents with out of control...

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Why Therapy?

People ask me all the time, what happens in therapy? There is often a reluctance to go to a stranger and tell them your life history and pay for the privilege. Sometimes it is hard to accept that we cannot solve our problems on our own or that someone will be telling...

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5 Steps for Quality “Special Time” With Your Little One

Special Time. You may have heard the term “special time” and wondered what it means? Surely all the time we spend with our children is special? As it happens the familiar adage “quality vs quantity” is as relevant as ever to time spent interacting with our children....

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Inside Out – The Value of Emotions

Don’t worry be happy? It is a phrase that we have come to love, but how does it fare in the world of parenting? Not so great it turns out. On my most recent trip to the movies I watched Inside Out (aka A Therapist’s Dream!), which beautifully demonstrates the value of...

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Forget Perfection – It’s All About The Connection

Many of the parents seeking help at Well Baby Center are doing so because they feel overwhelmed by the demands of parenting. Often we are asked questions that center around, “how can I attend to my child’s needs and also take care of myself?” As parents, we put...

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Let it Go!

When I was pregnant with my daughter one of the best pieces of advice I received was given to me by a mommy friend. With a knowing look on her sleep-deprived face she said, “Annabelle please do yourself a favor and remember EVERYTHING IS A PHASE!” Urging her to tell...

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Mommy Guilt

What is it with mommies and guilt?  It doesn’t matter how awesome a mom is doing being a mom; no matter how hard she works, how long she rocks the baby to calm him, how many books she reads, guilt still finds a way into her life.  Guilt says, “Are you sure you want to...

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Hours:
Monday - Friday 9 am - 9 pm
Saturday 9 am - 4 pm

Tax ID: 26-2055149

Hours:
Monday - Friday 9 am - 9 pm
Saturday 9 am - 4 pm

Tax ID: 26-2055149